This time of the year we say “happy” so many times but I wonder how many times we really stop to think what it means for us. Because let’s agree it has a different meaning for each of us. And that it may have been different for you last year or three or ten years ago. Our own definition of what makes us happy changes. Evolves I think.
Listening to some of my students at the University the only thing that they related with “Happy” was success in their professional career. Success is happiness. Professional success, making enough money to pay their debt and live a “good life” is happy. As I listen to them I could only imagine how , at least for some of them, this concept is going to change, maybe in even less than five years.
I had conversations with few people around me that expressed to me happiness is just being able to accomplish getting more and more every year. More presents, more health, more food on the table, more people to host.
A couple of my closest friends suffered important losses this year so for them I heard Happy is a feeling they are not there yet, but could think of ” feeling in peace” when trying to explain what “happy” is for them right now.
I always think of my father in law mentioning that Happiness is only moments, and sometimes I think he is right.
Saturday afternoon I could have around my three girls around me engaged in different things they chose. One was baking, the other one watching videos, the youngest one playing a card game, that precise 20 minutes were happiness for me.
Whatever means for you now, just remind yourself to be mindful of the moment or moments. Be present. Enjoy